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Quotes Meaning - It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.


You need to make a choice to change your reactions to the pain

It’s not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters. Whether the incident was yesterday or years ago, you need to choose to change your reactions to your past pain because you are in control of the outcome of your life…and you always have been.

When something happens, the only thing in your power is your attitude toward it

When something happens, the only thing in your power is your attitude toward it. You can either accept it or resent it. Try not to react merely at the moment. Pull back from the situation. Take a wider view. Compose yourself. Consider the bigger picture, think things through and fully commit.

Our attitudes shape our feelings, beliefs, and very often our behaviors.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Our attitudes shape our feelings, beliefs, and very often our behaviors. Our attitudes, whilst sometimes indifferent, are often either positive or negative. They play a big part in life – which at times can be immensely harsh. Things and events will happen over which we have no control.




Common and vulgar people ascribe all ills that they feel to others; people of little wisdom ascribe to themselves; people of much wisdom, to no one.

- Epictetus



To accuse others for one's own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one's education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one's education is complete.

- Epictetus



Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.

- Epictetus



The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.

- Epictetus



Any person capable of angering you becomes your master, He can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him

- Epictetus



First say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do.

- Epictetus



Don't explain your philosophy. Embody it.

- Epictetus



There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power or our will.

- Epictetus



It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.

- Epictetus



It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.

- Epictetus